Remembering the fallen: For some people Memorial Day is every day

The following was originally published Memorial Day Weekend, 2014.

Five years ago, Greg Saroyan wrote an amazing article in USA Today. The title is stunning in its simplicity. He called it, “For some people, Memorial Day is every day.” Let me, if you will, read just a portion of that article. And then tell you about two friends who lost their lives in Iraq.

He writes,

For grieving families the gathering place is section 60 at Arlington National Cemetery which has become a memorial to the sacrifices in Iraq and Afghanistan. More  than 400 US troops killed in those countries are buried in section in 60, several hundred yards from Pres. John F. Kennedy’s grave.

…  from a distance section 60 resembles much of Arlington cemetery where 300,000 are interred beneath but a closer look reveals greater splashes of color were families keep replenishing graveside flower  arrangements

Mementoes, many from children or former comrades, are tucked next to headstones: construction-paper memorial cards in a child’s scrawl, medals and military insignia, teddy bears and stuffed Easter bunnies.

There is also a constant outpouring of grief, from those who shed quiet tears to the inconsolable. A father lies prostrate on his son’s grave; a mother sits in a thunderous downpour seemingly unaware her lawn chair is sinking into the softening earth.

“When you’re there, I feel like I’m totally focused on my own grief. And then each of the moms, they would just come up and kind of touch you on the shoulder. You turn around and they look into your eyes and tell you they’re sorry,” says Regina “Gina” Barnhurst.

One Christmas Eve, Leesa Philippon was among the first to pierce that veil of sorrow and gently pull Barnhurst into the club of grieving families.

“Gina was kneeling at her son’s site writing and had lit candles,” Philippon recalls. “I jumped out of the car, and I walked close to her, called her name and then immediately hugged her and introduced myself. She was so alone and in deep pain.”

I knew Leesa’s son, a Marine who is interned in Arlington. His name is Lcpl. Lawrence Philippon. A graduate of Conard High School, Larry chose the US Marines over college. His parents tell me 9-11 affected him greatly. For him it became a mission, even before he enlisted.

Larry was already an honored member of the United States Marines, a member of the color guard at Ronald Reagan’s funeral. Larry did not have to go to Iraq but like so many others he badgered the Marines until they let him go. Lisa Philippon remembers the day he left for Iraq. She said she did a flashback to the day she waved goodbye to him as he left for his first day in kindergarten.. Lisa  and Ray were never to see their son again, killed in action while hunting AQ house to house in Iraq. Today he is buried in Arlington Cemetery. Today I mourn the death of a great American hero Lance Cpl. Lawrence Philippon.

360 miles north of Larry’s resting place is the grave site  of another great American hero, Sgt. Felix Delgreco Junior. Felix grew up in Simsbury, played Little League (I know because I coached his team), went on to excel in high school and could probably have gone to any college he wanted. In Simsbury he was known as a brainiac. But, he too felt a calling that grew every day in his heart. Rejected by the Army for being, well a little too heavy, Felix trained night and day to get in shape so that the Army could never say no. When the Army finally accepted him, little did they know they were taking on a man would become one of their greatest soldiers.

He served with distinction in Bosnia and like Larry he too did not have to go to Iraq. But he volunteered and here’s why. In a letter he wrote just before his death to his parents, he told them he wasn’t sure if there were weapons of mass destruction … and didn’t care. What did matter were the children of Iraq. What mattered to him was that they would have the same opportunity he had to grow up free, to excel, to become whatever they wanted. This is what drove Sgt. del Greco.

Felix lost his life in Iraq when his convoy was ambushed and he took upon himself to grab the gun in the Humvee turret to protect his brothers. He died a hero.

This is the way America has been since its founding. Both my Dad, a Lieutenant on the USS Missouri BB63 (shown here as a newly minted Ensign), and and my step Dad, a lieutenant and Marine pilot, served together at Okinawa. Both survived, but their service left an indelible mark on their hearts. When my father passed, he asked before his death that his headstone simply read Lt AP Vicevich USN (active duty from 1942-1946, although he remained in the USNR for sometime after that).It is more than a calling … it is part of who you are.

I could quote George Washington, Thomas Jefferson, Gen. Eisenhower, or my dad’s favorite, Gen. Douglas MacArthur. All good and necessary. But for me all you need to know is that since 1776 each service member felt that same calling in their heart. To defend and protect the Republic. To make us safe and in the process preserve for future generations the freedom the justice that is the American way.

May God rest their souls. May we never forget.


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Jim Vicevich

Jim is a veteran broadcaster and conservative/libertarian blogger with more than 25 years experience in TV and radio. Jim's was the long-term host of The Jim Vicevich Show on WTIC 1080 in Hartford from 2004 through 2019. Prior to radio, Jim worked as a business and financial reporter for NBC30 - the NBC owned TV station in Hartford - and as business editor at WFSB-TV in Hartford for 14 years while earning six Emmy nominations and three Telly Awards.


  1. Lynn on May 26, 2013 at 11:21 am

    This is simply eloquent, Jim. ?We honor all in the service, because they ask for little compensation and serve, above and beyond. This is the direct opposite of our elected politicians who demand and make laws to protect their huge compensation for little or no service. ?So, to the ?service men and women, who sacrificed all, I join Jim to say,”May God rest their souls. May we never forget.”

  2. Lynn on May 26, 2013 at 2:40 pm

    The diplomatic corps, also may make the ultimate sacrifice. Men and women serving in the embassies and consulates and the ambassadors. ?They are unsung heroes and in many countries carry out dangerous missions. I would like to honor them this Memorial Day, too. “May God rest their souls. May we never forget.”

  3. Plainvillian on May 26, 2013 at 6:41 pm

    I just spent 2 days in Washington DC at the same time the Rolling Thunder bikers were there.? They may be grey, some walking a little slowly, but the flags and pride of service attest to the kind of people Jim writes about.? The debt we owe them can never be repaid.?? May God hold and comfort them all, now and when they join those who’ve gone before while delivering His wrath on those who dishonor their service.

  4. DMan on May 27, 2013 at 7:39 am

    As always Jim, well said.??Your support of our troops all through the year keeps them in our minds. We shall never forget the sacrifice they make (made) for all of us. Keep up the fight. The photo of your dad was great ( no family resemblance there!).? Good seeing you out and about Friday night , wish I had the chance to say more than hi.

  5. Anne-EH on May 27, 2013 at 8:34 am

    Thank-you to those who have served and given THEIR ALL for in service to the USA. Thank-you to the veterans and those at present who are serving. God Bless.
    Well done Jim.

  6. johnboy111 on May 30, 2013 at 9:32 pm

    God bless America…Please

  7. ricbee on May 25, 2014 at 11:19 am

    We Americans feel differently than any others,even mothers understand when their sons are drawn to war,to save her & the world from whatever the oppressor.

Ray saluting Philippon funeral

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